Cheer Up - she wanted to feel better but what could make her cheer up? This is how it all started...
I opened the email and there was a short note saying:
“I haven't seen you for ages but I do see your various posts etc. with interest. I am contacting you because unfortunately I am ill with cancer and am having chemo. I know I would benefit from yoga practice (including pranayama) but I don't want to go to classes because of the infection risk, and I have been struggling with practising on my own. Apart from low energy levels and being quite unfit by now (I have been ill for some months) I am doing Ok.
I'd also like to see you as I am sure you would be able to offer some wise counsel and support...”
I paused.
I was taken aback. I let this information soak in for a few hours and then called and we discussed how I could help and arranged first weekly sessions.
These sessions were filled with yoga posture work, breathing exercises and holding the space and asking questions that would help direct her attention around the issue of fear of death when you want to live. There were tears, laughter and funnily enough a lot of inspiration.
And it's the inspiration that I want to talk about here.
What would you like to have happen, I asked? To “cheer up”, she said.
We explored what kind of cheer up and delved deeper asking exploration Clean Language questions. What happens when you cheer up? Where is the “cheer” and where is the “up” ?
These questions helped her access her own inner wisdom and to discover more about what she wanted.
Sorting out stuff in the house would be nice but there was no motivation to do that and it would not cheer her up. Going out for a walk might but was tiring and so tended not to cheer her up, she could cook more but no as food didn't taste that good at the moment...and so we continued.
Then her voice became animated and her eyes sparkled as she said that helping other people, that would cheer her up.
We explored how she could help other people now and she told stories about the people she had mentored at work and as she spoke I thought, it sounds like she is a gifted problem solver (one of the gift markings from hand analysis).
This person is super analytical, logical and resourceful. Her career dealt with hard facts. She trusted and believed in science and not metaphysical practices.
I was hesitant but went ahead any way and asked her if I could look at her hands. She smiled, shrugged and opened her palms.
On both hands, she had the gifted problem solver head line. It's a very long head line, which represents your way of thinking, how you solve problems and how you process data and communicate information.
I told her this was incredibly rare. Less than 1{a96b29581f8ce42daab38f712645ee506149849ec98e0c0df66c3db27bbbe002} of the population would have this gift. Wow!
When you have this gift, nicknamed Octopus Brain or Hal9000, the name of the computer in the film “2001: A Space Odyssey”, it means that your brain is like a super computer.
She told me how she literally soaks up information like a sponge. She just had to glance at a document for a few moments and that information would be recorded. She was adept at finding solutions to complex problems and this came easily and led to many promotions at work.
When some of her colleagues complained about her being promoted when she didn't do much work, her boss explained to them that it wasn't that she didn't do much work but that she completed work much faster than anyone else and handled multiple tasks and projects very easily. She loved to work with big challenging problems.
She told me how she could only cook if she had lots of dishes going at the same time otherwise cooking was too boring and maybe she could write about how she did this.
If you have mega computer brain and are gifted at solving big, complex problems your brain needs complicated problems to resolve for you to be at your best and feel satisfied.
Now that she was not working, she was bored and unhappy and wanted a project to occupy her mind.
She knew that she could write articles or a book that could have an impact on the whole industry that she worked in and I knew that she could do it. This was a superpower gift and her power base for helping others and having a huge impact.
We were discussing and exploring this for most of the session and she cheered up and I felt so very inspired and honoured to learn so many amazing things about her that I did not know before.
I asked if I could use her as my example of this gift marking and if I could write about it and she agreed and we laughed. There was only ten minutes of the session left for some postures and stretching. Writing this now, I am still blown away by her incredible talent and intuitive wisdom.
This was life- changing for me. After this session I felt that she had given me a gift – the deep realisation that now is the time and always is to create what matters. And not to wait around thinking that “I'll do x when “y” condition exists. No!
Now is the time to start acting on what you would like to have happen and to create it in your life.
Yesterday, I was doing creative work and re-visiting (AGAIN my friend told me) how to describe what I do to others. I said to her that when asked what do you do, I would now say:
“ I help you discover what you're here to do, your special purpose, power-base and gifts so you can be yourself and not a copy of others and make your mark or difference in the world before it's too late.”
She said that the “before it's too late” is a bit gloomy.
Well, yes I conceded, that's an inference that can be made.
However, I see no point in sugar coating what is after-all our reality.
The only thing that is certain is that we are all moving towards death. It's a fact and not necessarily negative. It depends on how you look at it. It might seem depressing if you feel that you are not operating to the level of your potential or contributing in a way that you would like.
I believe that it is your responsibility to use your gifts in whatever way possible to help yourself, others and the planet to thrive. This applies to me also and in many ways I'm not contributing to the best of my potential, yet.
Part of me did not want to write this blog. It's been on my mind to write it for a few months and I resisted. For many people death is not a “nice” subject. It scares me a little, too. Then this morning, I hopped out of bed and started to write. It was time!
A few weeks ago, I learned that my client had died. She had been in hospital and I had not seen her for five weeks. Her death was sudden for me. She had superpower talents. She had accomplished amazing things and was very successful.
And there were things she would have liked to do, but for her this lifetime has ended and it got too late.
You and I are still alive and if not now to start creating what you want and moving towards your dream one step at a time... then when. At some point it might be too late. We just don't know when that will be.
One of my favourite yoga masters and mystic, Sadhguru, says that our ability to respond to life and its challenges is limitless. “If you are willing you can respond to everything”.
What I've noticed with my clients is that they have many challenges - limiting beliefs, unhelpful patterns, doubts, lack of direction, and are looking for more meaning in their lives. Wanting to be myself and not a copy is a recurring theme.
If you would like to discover your special gifts and what makes you unique and not a copy of someone else, it's all laid out in your hands based on the neural pathways of your brain. Using the accurate, non-predictive biometric system of hand analysis, you can uncover your power-base and superpower talents. Go here to discover how you can work with me.
Namaste!
